Clear writing about life.

I write about the sort of stuff we wish someone had told us about life. Happiness. Success. Emotions. How, in this crazy world, to live the life that's right for you.

You can find my writing on some of your favorite sites on the internet, as well as here on Ink and Feet.

My best-loved pieces are below.

Dig in, and feel free to reach out. I'd love to hear from you.

Culture and Travel

I sold all my stuff, and now live all over the world, slow-traveling my way across the planet. I immerse myself in culture after culture to learn what they have to teach about being alive. Here's what I've learned.

The Mexican Secret Of Happiness By the numbers, Mexicans are a whole lot happier than they should be. The reason is a set of wonderful cultural characteristics - the Mexican secret to happiness. Home Is Just A Story There are stories we tell about life, love, and home. But they're stories - and they're not right for everyone. This Mask Will Not Protect Me All those surgical masks you see in Southeast Asia? They're not what you think. Why I Never Haggle Most cultures on earth haggle. I never bite. Here's why. In Defense Of The Second Menu Know that second menu, in English, with the jacked-up prices? It's a beautiful thing. Here's why.

How Our Brains & Emotions Work
(it's not how we think)

I'm the author of The Change Monsters, and am currently writing The No-Bullshit Guide To Depression. I'm fascinated by how our brains actually work, and how we can use all the powerful biological shortcuts we have to our benefit.

How To Be Mexican Every time I land somewhere new, I have to learn how to fit in. There's a trick - our brain's built in mimicry abilities - and we can use it for amazing things. Never Say Sorry "I'm Sorry." It's helpful, inocuous, and kind, right? Actually, nope. It's doing more harm than good, and there's a better way. Never Say Best How two chefs in Thailand cracked open what I was really saying when I said, "This is the best." It made me never want to say it again. Explosive Diarrhea Is Awesome The rather comforting truth about explosive diarrhea, and the other big scary monsters our brains tell us would be the worst thing ever. Why Blacklivesmatter And The Power Of A Refrigerator Note This whole thing around #blacklivesmatter is down to our brains trying to trick us. Here's what's going on - and what we can do about it.

Having a Healthy Mind in a Crazy World

I've wrestled with depression for most of my life, struggled with self-worth, gotten stuck in bad situations, and burnt out repeatedly. In other words, I'm human.

But I've also researched, experimented, and taken notes. Here's what I've learned.

How To Help Someone With Depression If you know someone who struggles with depression, here's your guide on how to help. I get countless emails from folks who deal with depression thanking me for this one. Trust me, it works. What To Do When You're Depressed The best things you can do for yourself when you're in the middle of a depressive episode. How To Survive Burnout Sometimes burnout is unavoidable. Here's everything you need to know to survive it, and get back on your feet. 7 Steps To Get Out Of A Bad Situation Ever felt stuck in some situation you didn't want, but weren't sure how to get out? Me too. Here's a tried and tested way to get free. How To Love Yourself Self love is a lot trickier than it seems. Here's a strategy to get there that uses your brain's natural tendencies to your benefit.

Living an Authentic Life

I'm obsessed with living an authentic life. Mine is this writing and traveling and brain-and-heart-understanding. Yours is likely pretty different.

But it turns out there are some cornerstones we all share in finding and getting the lives that are authentic for us.

How To Spend Your Life on What Matters Nobody has enough time. But some people are able to spend their lives doing exactly what they want, without the bullshit. How's that possible? They've figured out this trick. How To Be Successful At Anything Ever wondered how those really successful people got there? Turns out, it's not that complicated. I can tell you, in five minutes. What Surfing Taught Me About Success I learned to surf in Puerto Escondido, Mexico. Along the way, it taught me a surprising emotional truth. Why I Turned Down Facebook I was flown out to Facebook, interviewed, and then turned down the job. Here's why. How To Get To The Life You Want Without Being A Superhero That big, scary, far-off dream? Here's how to get it — even if you're chickenshit like me.

The Letters

Every week, from wherever I am in the world, I send out a hand-crafted letter to an amazing group of people. Here are the latest:

A New Adventure April 17, 2017 Leave the Party While You're Still Having Fun March 19, 2017 Time March 12, 2017 The Perfect and the Good March 5, 2017 Doubtful Sound and Riding the Waves February 26, 2017 The Archives Letters from Weeks and Months Past