10 things I've learned about life.

Life has no manual, and that is some serious bullshit. There's this terrible truth - experience is what gives you insight, but by the time you get it, you don't need it anymore.

Here's my attempt to short-circuit that process a bit, and tell you what I've learned about life.

1. Have core practices.

Focus on them. Put your spare energy into them. Take care of your mind, body, and clarity. Understand your keystone habits, and build them. Learn how habits work, then build and protect them.

2. Spend your fucks/spoons/minutes on your values.

Sarah Knight is funnier than I will ever be, and she really nailed it with her books and flowcharts. Christine Miserando was talking about lupus, but she also nailed it with this article. It's not my favorite piece I've ever written, but I'm not far off the mark here.

The point is the same in all of them: You have finite energy. Spend it on what you care about, and absolutely refuse to spend it on things you don't. Never feed the trolls. Never try to convince someone in the youtube comments that they're wrong. You only get this one life. This day. These hours. These minutes. Make them count.

3. Be Kind.

Being kind is the simplest, most effective thing you can do for yourself and for others, in basically every situation. It's such good advice I got it tattooed on my wrist so don't forget. It will never, ever point you wrong.

4. Your answer is what matters.

There's no one true way to live. Ignore anybody who's trying to tell you otherwise.

5. The world isn't fair. (But we should try to make it that way.)

Privilege is real. Inequity is real. Understand what you have. (Here's a great list.) Use it to make the world more fair.

6. Follow your fear.

It's where all the good stuff is.

7. It's not about you.

Remember you exist in a big world. Live that way.

8. Experience things, don't be them.

Feel things. Think things. Don't become things, or believe things. Stay open to growth and the possibility that you're entirely wrong on something. Future you will thank you for it.

9. Growth Sucks. It's worth it. It still sucks.

I have never grown in any meaningful way without thinking while it was happening, "Fuck. This sucks."

It has always, always been worth the pain.

10. Your Brain has Blind Spots .

We are being lied to every single day by biases in how your brain is wired. It's up to us to recognize them, and do something about them. The world isn't quite what it looks like.

11. Your body drives everything. Take care of it.

You can't get very far without the collection of cells you inhabit. Be kind to them. Take care of them.

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